Saturday, November 20, 2004
That's one phrase i've encountered, and i agree with it very much. it's not something i'm happy about, nor is for a brother. it's funny how so many people take trust for granted, and don't ever really think about the days when that special something is lost. before a problem prevails, no one really acknowledges that the trust is actually a really hard earned thing, that is not easily earnable--mind the fact that is even harder to repair. trust is built through times together between two people, and it lasts with them until one of them finally makes a mistake. when that trust is built up so strong, that's when it is extremely dangerous. you do not keep any guard of whats to happen because you think nothing will be able to shatter that trust between you and your partner. but trust me, it's good to always keep a defense...cuz you do not want to crumble and fall.
When a trusted relationship is broken, from either side, it is hard to repair. people say time will allow it to heal itself, but how much time? can someone answer this question? i don't think anyone can actually answer that question with a definite answer, other than God. But we are not God, we cannot answer this. That 'time' may be at any point of time. It can be the next minute after the problem...it can be weeks and weeks of time...it can be months and months... it can be years...and it can be never. we'll never know the actual time that a trust will be repaired because it hurts a lot when the closest one to you mistrusts you. What can we do? give up? no, we should never give up..especially because your partner is that important to you. if you can leave that person after a case of mistrust happened, think twice--you're not as close as may think or you really need to shapen yourself up. To me, a trusted person will always be that trusted person, from before, to the future, and to eternity. Sure the person may lie again or hurt you once again...but if you are so close, then there shouldn't be such a problem to forgive your partner. Time will make itself heal, that's one thing for sure..but how long? it all really depends on the person.
With times that seem forever, broken relationships will sure to heal. It may take years before it can actually heal, but what is there to worry about if you have confidence about it? Some may think it's a waste of time to carry on the relationship within your heart even after many years....but that's not what i think. Think about it: you never let go of such person, and you have your problems...but if one day you see such person again, and he/she tells you that he/she is sorry about the whole thing and shouldn't of hated you for so long...imagine it. Don't you think that would satisfy you much more than merely a car or a million dollars? it certainly would to me. a car can be totally wrecked, and it's gone. money can be gone within seconds. But a friend is a friend that lasts forever, no matter what the problems are. Then you might argue with the fact, what if you decide to wait and wait..but that day never comes when you two are healed? here take this to mind, i really don't care. cuz i know i made my part of the "game" and i've tried my best to hold the whole thing together. If they don't accept it, then let it be. it's better than you stop and find another..then he/she comes back to you and it's messed up beyond anything.
Trust on it. Faith in it.
Have confidence about the whole thing.
Through God anything can happen, just give it time, and sustain it. Never said it'd be easy, because i know for a fact that it will be the hardest task that you face for your life. But trust me, when it comes, you'll be much more satisfied and in joy than any other thing on this earth.
That's how i see it. You don't have to agree, but that's how it is in my mind.
Hang in there.
i am, and i expect you to too bro.
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3 Comments:
hey bud.
hang in there. i know that don't help but i'm gonna say it anyway. thanks for all you help also. i think i would have gone insane without your help. keep rockin and take it easy kay? things will fall in place in their due time. you just gotta wait for it.
- heidi
hey stanstan. ah well, life's like that. it just throw things at you, and you might not necessarily catch it. well the ball's been thrown, and i missed it. soo.. well life goes on. cant complain, my life wasnt as poopie as others. so *shrugs* neways hope lifes good for you. thank God 1st term's over now im scared for the report card eek! anyway see you soon. loves
okay.. your blogs are sooo long! hahaha.. they're great! hahaha.. nice to know you're bloggin again.. just another page i can visit everyday! heehee.. hang in there stan... God is faithful.. hehehehe.. YB4LIFE! nice newspaper layout! you are genuinely a wiz! haha... this has been a very very very random post! take care dude! hehehe..
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